My name is Melissa Winger, the mother of a wonderful son who has multiple medical and developmental needs resulting from a rare and complex chromosome disorder. I look forward to sharing the lessons I have learned navigating the health care system, from the family perspective, both good and bad.
I also want to hear from you, as families, about your experiences.
At Children’s Hospitals and Clinics of Minnesota, I have been involved as a family adviser for 13 years, most of which has involved serving on the Family Advisory Council (FAC). I served as FAC chairwoman for three of those years.
I remember the first time I applied to be a FAC member and on the application was a question that asked (looking for diversity with a goal of having all families that come to Children’s represented), “What do you feel you could bring to the council?” I answered, “I am 19.” When I mailed it off, I thought there was no way they would offer me a seat on the council. Who wants to hear from a 19-year-old mom?
Well, I was wrong and they offered me a seat on the council. I have never stopped sharing my story and experiences, largely because of the positive changes that resulted.
Being a mom of a child with significant needs, Children’s became our second home — over 30 surgeries and procedures and double that of hospitalizations. I had to learn how to effectively navigate the health care system, and to be honest, I do not have it all figured out yet.
I have been able to give input on the design of the Children’s Medical Organizer, an online organizer that I use to organize my son’s records. Through the years I have been a part of many committees and projects at Children’s as the family representative. Currently I work as a Concierge at the Welcome Center on both the St. Paul and Minneapolis hospital campuses.
I look forward to sharing with you some of the things I’ve learned or wish I had known, and I want to learn from you, too. What questions do you have about Children’s that I could offer my perspective, as a mother who has spent a lot of time there with her son, on?

Last month, my father-in-law fainted in a restaurant, and we thought he might be having a stroke. He required an ambulance drive over to one of the local hospitals. The police were great, the EMT was great, and the fire department was great, as were the admitting people in the emergency department and every one of the people over at the hospital. The amount of workup he received was unbelievable for someone who was probably just fainting.
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There was a time in my childhood when I had gained a bit of weight. Yesterday, browsing through the faded photographs, I tried to imagine how today’s American pediatricians might respond upon seeing my own heavier image as a child. Most would almost certainly find me overweight, perhaps counsel my parents about exercise and healthier eating. The way it was, my pediatrician back then – in mid-1970s Former Yugoslavia – playfully pinched my cheek and exclaimed, “You’ve improved!” She was not joking. She really meant I looked better, healthier.
Did you ever notice that if you watch commercials, 50% of them seem to be oriented to some medical problem? Heck, if you watch the nightly news, 90% of the commercials have to do with some medical problem. Whether your leg is restless, you have ED, ADD, OCD, constipation, diarrhea, severe menstrual cramps, headaches, backaches, bloating, allergies, acid reflux, asthma, emphysema, or you need a wheelchair, you can’t get by without some drug.
While these words could have been written today, they are in fact attributed to Hesiod, who is said to have written them in the 8th century B.C. Society’s fear and frustration with our young people has been with us for – literally – thousands of years. If you were to pick up the newspaper or watch T.V as a way to find out about the current generation of young people, you would find a bleak picture, a tale of a generation that is self-centered, materialistic, irresponsible, disrespectful, violent and uneducated. My experience of young people today, however, couldn’t be further from this depressing image.
When I was asked to be part of the Children’s blog, I got very excited thinking, wow, I’m now one of those up-to-date type of managers. Even as a grandfather, I could be cool because I have a blog. The fact that I even understand some of the manifestations of social media is a little bit mind-blowing (an old term by the way).