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Everyone feels sad or moody from time to time. But if you’ve noticed that a friend has been feeling sad for a couple weeks or longer, or isn’t enjoying or taking part in things they used to, it could be a sign of depression.
Depression can make it hard for someone to see a better future. Friends or family are often the ones who notice how serious things are.
Depression affects how people think and feel about themselves, and how they act. The signs can be subtle and easy to miss. Someone who is depressed might:
Encourage your friend to talk with a trusted adult. This could be someone like a parent, teacher, school counselor, mentor, or coach. You can even offer to go along. If your friend isn’t able to speak with an adult, let an adult know that you’re concerned. Ask this person to reach out to your friend or help your friend meet with a therapist. Just having someone listen and care can help your friend feel more hopeful and less alone.
If there isn’t an adult to turn to, have your friend reach out to a helpline. They're staffed by people your friend can talk with 24 hours a day. They can listen and guide your friend on how to get help.
In the United States, they can contact:
If your friend mentions suicide, self-harm, or hurting others, get help right away:
You may want to try to help your friend on your own, but it's always safest to get help. If your friend made you promise not to tell anyone what's going on, the best way to help is by breaking that promise. It may feel like you’re betraying your friend, but if your friend has thoughts of suicide, telling someone could save their life.
Depression is treated by talking with a trained therapist, psychologist, or other mental health provider. How long this treatment lasts depends on the person and the symptoms. Sometimes, doctors also prescribe medicine.
It's natural to feel worried, sad, or upset about your friend. But it can be draining if you get too caught up in worrying about another person’s problems. Even if your friend isn’t ready to talk with someone, you can. It can help you to confide in an adult you trust. Explain what’s going on and how you feel.
Treatment for depression takes time, but supporting your friend while caring for yourself can help you both.
Note: All information is for educational purposes only. For specific medical advice, diagnoses, and treatment, consult your doctor.
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